Daddy Just Doesn't Notice

Our Daddy has been "Mr. Mom" around our house for the past few weeks . . . . . which has been a good thing . . . but it has also been very interesting!  I've read a lot about the differences between men's brains and women's brains, but I guess I just didn't really comprehend what all of that "psycho-babble" meant.  I think I'm beginning to understand.  One of the authors suggested that men's brains are filled with boxes - each box has a separate concept / idea / thought / project / responsibility in it, and the boxes NEVER touch!  So, whatever is in one box has no connection to anything that is in another box.  And then there is one box that is EMPTY . . . . and men like it that way, so we should never attempt to put anything in that box.  Leave it alone!  It is empty on purpose.  Perhaps that is why some men open their eyes in the morning and immediately reach for the TV remote.  There is nothing in one of the boxes in their brains, so they have plenty of room to fill it up with whatever they want to put in it.  But the woman in his life must never try to put anything in there! 

And then, the theory goes something like this:  women's brains are like spaghetti.  Everything in a woman's brain not only touches everything else, but it is all intertwined and entangled so that everything is connected.  So, for instance, if Husband asks Wife what is for dinner and then before she can answer him, he is wandering around mumbling to himself about that (D*&^) TV remote, without even listening to her answer to his first question . . ... all of that translates in her spaghetti brain this way:  "He isn't paying any attention to me, he must not love me anymore, and maybe it is because I've gained five pounds, or I didn't put my make-up on this morning before the kids started screaming for breakfast."  So when she starts weeping in the pork chops, he is totally astounded, partly because he completely forgot that he even asked the question in the first place, and partly because he is wondering what in the world the (D*#^) TV remote has to do with whether or not he loves his wife. 

Having Our Daddy be Mr. Mom for a couple of weeks has helped me understand all of this, and it has been very insightful.  In the morning when I leave for work, I suggest brightly, "It will really help keep things down to a lower level of chaos if you keep the girls on a routine today."  And he looks at me with a blank stare.  "Oh, OK, Honey."  Now how was I supposed to know that he had no clue what that meant?!?!  I guess I just assumed that it makes perfect sense to anyone that it is a good thing to get kids out of bed before noon, feed them breakfast, have them get dressed, brush their teeth, wash their faces, and comb their hair.  And then do something!  Apparently that wasn't very obvious at all    ;o)   But I have to say I'm truly grateful for Our Daddy who is the best daddy in the world, even if it took a few days to teach him that little girls really do need to comb their hair once in a while, and even take a bath now and then.  But then who else would spend a whole Saturday putting together the new swingset, or build the playhouse, or take the girls fishing, or go to the beach for swimming?  He's the best!  And he's getting the hang of the whole Mr. Mom thing . . . . he's even figured out how to make pig tails in his little girls' hair.

So I guess we shouldn't be surprised the daddies don't notice if children are swinging from the chandeliers, drinking Mountain Dew and eating Oreo cookies for breakfast.  It would make some moms shudder to think of the health implications of all of this . . . . but so far my girls have survived!  And I think Daddy will make it, too! 

 

Comments

[AlmostPrecious]

Thanks for making me smile. Yes it is true; "Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars".

[Amanda]

This is great! And so true! They sure do look like they are having fun though! My little one loves it when Daddy plays with her. It is way different than my boring play. hehe

BTW... I have a giveaway going on over on my blog. You might be able to find something for those adorable girls. It ends tomorrow night, so hopefully you get this message before then.
Blessings!

[Jennifer]

What a great post! So, so true;) I wonder why we have such different ways that our brains function?? But it sounds like he is a great Mr. Mom!!

[Loni]

Thank you so much for sharing this week. This was a wonderful, thought provoking quote. Makes me think too of other things I've got to give up.

THANK YOU!

My IOW is up also ~ Loni